Posts Tagged 'the benefits of marriage'

Pure Mood affiliation

Pure Mood affiliation

Do we need a cultural shift regarding single parenthood?   Yes, based on the above essay, I say we desperately need a shift.

Does marriage alleviate poverty?  Yes.

‘”It’s clear that married-couple families are better off economically, because there are potentially two workers in the family,” says Margaret Simms, a fellow at the Urban Institute and director of its Low-Income Working Families Project. “But you cannot solve poverty by just marrying people if – jointly – they cannot generate sufficient income to raise a family above poverty.”’

You still have to actually work.  Marriage doesn’t supply you with a magic cash flow but yep it pretty much eliminates poverty.

So we should encourage marriage, right?  Nope.  Why not?  Because children of single mothers who later married found almost no, which is another way of saying found some, physical or mental health benefits and oh yeah some of those marriages ended in divorce.

‘In her own research and elsewhere, studies have overwhelmingly found very few benefits to marriage for single mothers and their children. Williams has looked at more than 30 years worth of national data and found almost no physical or mental health benefits to children of single mothers who later married. Another national study found that nearly two-thirds of single mothers who did later marry were divorced by the time they were 35-44. A study of the marriage-promotion programs funded through welfare reform also found few long-term results.’

That isn’t a coherent argument against encouraging marriage.  It is an argument that poverty doesn’t matter.  If marriage greatly reduces poverty but the more important indicators, such as the physical and mental well being of children, still do not improve despite improved material well being, poverty does not matter.

Again it is not a choice of encouraging marriage, which is really just a proxy for stable long term relationships, or government programs aimed at helping single parents.  We can do both.

Watching someone tie themselves into knots trying to explain away the obvious and huge benefits of marriage shows just how badly we need a cultural shift regarding single parenthood.

Advertisements